7 habits of highly successful students

7 habits of highly successful teens

Habit 5

5. Seek the first to understand, and then to be understood

 Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the greatest frustrations in life is that we feel that we aren’t understood. This habit will insure that your teens learn the most important communication skill there is: active listening.                                                                                                                        Why is this habit the key to communication? Its because the deepest need in the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are --- a unique , one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they may tell you more than what you want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Listen with your heart, eyes, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The other 53% comes from body language and how we say words, or the tone or feeling reflected off our voice (40%). Most people like to talk, and rather talk than to listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more when we are listening rather when we talk. Learn to listen and learn to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding. Seek first to understand than to be understood ---- LISTEN

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